Randy Perskin: Discussing Divorce

Finances After Divorce

Randy — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 00:22:29 +0000

It can be better to reach a settlement agreement than go through a lengthly and expensive divorce trial. However it is important to remember however that the financial obligations of each party be explcitly set forth in the settlement agreement. It is unlikely that an ex spouse will agree, post divorce, to advance additional funds, even for a child’s welfare. It is therefor important to explicitly set forth a financial arrangement that is beneficial to all sides.

Keeping a Level Head

Randy — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 19:32:35 +0000

Especially if there are children involved, the relationship with a spouse does not necessarily end when the divorce has been finalized. Visitation schedules, child support and alimony payments and the care of young children all need to be arranged between ex spouses. Very often a certain level of animosity will still exist between ex spouses which will make cooperative efforts difficult. The best advice is to try and keep a level head and make every effort to work towards a satisfactory arrangement for everyone. Do not be suprised if arguments arise.

Happy Holidays

Randy — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 15:39:53 +0000

Wishing everyone a very happy holiday season. May your New Year be filled with love and happiness.

Holidays

Randy — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 23:18:22 +0000

The holidays are an opportunity to enjoy time with family and friends. Divorce should not impinge on your holiday spirit or your enjoyment of the season. Surround yourself with people who love and support you. Most of all have a very happy holiday season

Differences of Opinion

Randy — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 12:39:06 +0000

Differences of opinion between spouses will not necessarily be alleviated once the marriage has been terminated. In fact, it is often the case that they will be exacerbated by the adversarial nature of the proceeeding. Dealing with an ex spouse who is unrealistic and argumentative is difficult however necessary if children are involved. It is important to remain level headed and realize that extended arguments and attempts at persuasion may never lead to a consensus. The best result may be to avoid confrontation and compromise if possible.

Further Emotional and Economic Concerns

Randy — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 21:26:05 +0000

It is not unusual to allow emotions to rule how you negotiate a divorce. Many people going through a divorce can relate to the scenario posed in “War of the Roses” where anger and frustration overcome rationality and destruction of property becomes an outlet and a way to punish an ex spouse. Feelings of frustration and anger are natural however it is far better to make every attempt to come out of the divorce as financially sound as possible. Discussions with your attorney, accountant and financial planner will allow you to accurately assess your financial situation and determine the best possible strategy to ensure your financial well being.

Emotional and Economic Concerns

Randy — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:42:13 +0000

A divorce impacts emotional and financial well being. Feelings of anger, loss and sadness are valid and should be addressed with the support of family, friends and, perhaps, professionals such as psychiatrists. It is preferable, however, not to allow these emotions to cloud your judgement when considering the economic impact of your divorce. If possible, it is preferable to keep a level head and use a practical approach when considering your finances.

Elder Law

Randy — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 19:51:42 +0000

In an effort to help the elder community I am now handling cases involving guardianship.

Divorce and the Elderly

Randy — Fri, 22 May 2009 17:30:46 +0000

The divorce rate among the elderly has been traditionally lower than among the younger population. Often the elderly are faced with the prospect of a divorce, breaking up an otherwise happy marriage, when one spouse requires long term care that the couple can not afford. If a couple does not have enough money or coverage to pay for necessary care but has too many assets to qualify for Medicaid, a divorce is often recommended to protect available assets for the well spouse.

Children and Divorce

Randy — Sat, 09 May 2009 19:00:00 +0000

The issues relating to a divorce will have a direct impact on your children. Their living situation and emotional stability will be affected. Additionally, the lifestyle they enjoyed while their parents remained together will change.

Children of divorce will often feel they are at fault for their parents’ separation. I have previously spoken about providing outside care to your children, such as a psychiatrist, if they seem to be struggling. However it is also important that your children feel comfortable talking to you about the divorce and its consequences for them. This does not mean that parents should discuss the negative aspects of their relationship. Rather, each parent should demonstrate their support of their children and continually assert that the divorce was not their offspring’s fault. Additionally, parents should be open to answer questions in a positive manner and provide a comfortable forum for their children to express their concerns.